Stop Needing to Be Thanked
As soon as you expect a “thank you” from someone you turn your act of service into a transaction.
Start Saying Thank You
Spread your “thank yous” around like sprinkles. As soon as you stop being thankful, you open the door for all kinds of negative attitudes. Living in a state of thankfulness removes your ability to stay negative.
So… stop expecting a thank you AND say thanks for everything? What the??
The problem here is the expectation. We put so many expectations on people. She owes me a thank you. He owes me a reply. Going back to cognitive distortions, we start out with number 10, shoulds, I should be thanked. And easily slide into others such as 14, always being right, I know I’m right and should be thanked. Or 13, global labeling, they always forget to say thanks.
People try to do their best but fail miserably on a regular basis. Others become impatient and rude because of whatever is going on with them. They take out these negative emotions on people around them who have to put up with their junk.
We literally have to be the change we wish to see. Being that change is the toughest task you’ll ever take on. Remain open to criticism when someone gets upset. Say thanks when you don’t feel especially thankful but it is warranted.
So, people are rude, and other people add to that negative energy by expectations of being thanked, or whatever else. It’s exhausting and quite frankly, sets everyone up to fail. Short circuit the system. Stop expecting the best behavior from everyone else. Start demanding it from yourself.
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“Let your light shine before men in such a way that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven.