Perhaps one of the hardest tasks, as a human, is to remove judgment. In an effort to remove judgment, I’ve judged myself … for judging too much. I’ve judged others for judging me. I’ve judged what I think others are judging me for. By the time I reached adulthood, judging and feeling judged was an automatic reaction. Somehow I wanted to break free from this cycle.
The hardest judgment of all is self-judgment. Getting down on yourself because you’re too lazy or a workaholic. You’re too giving or too stringent with your affection. Whatever your automatic judgments are, work to break the cycles so you can be free to live the way you want to live.
God the Father is the ultimate judge.
No mere mortal is that wise.
Robert Lewis Stevenson said, “Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant.”
I’d like to submit this frame shift for anyone who wants to remove self-judgment. Judge yourself by your efforts, not the results. If you want something, work towards it every day. Learn what it takes to accomplish your goal, then set smaller goals along the way to meet your bigger goal.
Beating up yourself leads to lack of confidence, which leads to failure.
Beating up others inside your own head leads to jealousy and spite.
The type of wisdom I want for myself realizes I’m not wise, nor do I know enough to make the right judgments. I get it right and wrong… more wrong than right.
It’s far more peaceful to let things go and work on my own self. Judgment free of myself and of others. Live my own truth so others can be free to live theirs.
The trouble is, my judgments are so ingrained by this point. The habits and automatic reactions are hard to break. When I started down the road of removing judgment, I was up and down, happy and sad, accepting and rejecting.
I’ve been practicing judgment removal for a while now, and while it’s still hard, it’s not quite as automatic.
I can take a few beats before I’m making those assumptions. Or, better yet, I can see them starting and stop them in their tracks. It’s not easy and it’s not for everyone, but if you’re willing to try, you might discover an inner peace that was lacking.
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